Why Don’t I Want Sex?
You tried everything to fix it: self-help, therapy, books, even saying yes when your body screamed no. But what if the problem isn’t you?
You’re Not Alone in This
If sex feels like a chore… if you go numb or disappear… if you’ve ever cried into your pillow and wondered what the fuck is wrong with you—
I see you.
Let’s get curious about where all that sex shame came from.
And let’s burn it down.
Start here. Read the introduction free.
When Sex Feels Off but You Don’t Know Why
You keep trying to explain it. To yourself. To your partner. But the words won’t come.
You just know something feels off.
So sex feels disconnected. Your body doesn’t feel like yours. And the more you try to fix it, the more broken you feel.
Struggling with Desire Doesn’t Mean You’re Broken
This didn’t start with you.
They taught you to say yes when you meant no, to shrink yourself, and to ignore the voice that lives in your bones.
But here’s the truth:
That conditioning isn’t who you are. And it doesn’t get the final word.
You get to end the sex shame.
You’re not broken. You’re waking up.
I Believed the Same Lies You Did
I found my pleasure in innocence.
But as I grew up, I learned to treat it like a sin.
What once comforted me turned into a guilty secret I never talked about.
That silence followed me into my marriage.
I thought great sex would come naturally, like a reward for vows and rings.
Instead, I felt more broken than ever.
How I Started to Heal
Then one night, my husband saw the tears I tried to hide.
“You need to stop letting me hurt you,” he said. And he held me while I cried.
That moment didn’t fix everything, but it opened a wound I never let heal.
So I stopped pretending. I started asking questions, reading the books and giving myself permission to think differently.
Now I know the truth: Pleasure is sacred. It’s mine. And it always has been.
That’s why I created this space.
Not to fix you—but to remind you: You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.
This is where it began for me.
Want the first few pages?
Healing from Purity Culture: Say It Out Loud
Breaking the Silence
Just by landing here, you’re already breaking the silence around sex and shame — and that matters.
Who This Is For
This 1:1 session is for women raised in the church who are tired of carrying quiet confusion and guilt about their bodies, desires, and beliefs.
Creating a Safe Space
You don’t need to have it figured out. You just need a space that’s judgment-free, sex-positive, and safe enough to say the things you’ve never said out loud.
What to Expect
Together, we’ll unpack the lies, clear the fog, and rebuild your relationship with your body and voice. You’ll walk away with tools that stick — and the kind of clarity you can feel in your bones.
Curious about working together?
Email me at jessica@jessicaleighbiles.com for coaching inquiries.
Or get the free introduction to my book and start there.
Healing from Purity Culture Starts Here
Understanding the Wounds
You grew up hearing that your body, your desire, and your voice couldn’t be trusted.
That messaging didn’t just confuse you. It wounded you.
Introducing the Journey
Freedom Between the Sheets is a raw, unapologetic book for women breaking free from purity culture and healing sexual shame.
What You’ll Discover
I wrote it to name what no one else would.
To describe what trauma actually feels like.
To expose the way shame hides in the body.
And to show what it really takes to come home to yourself.
Your Next Step
If you’re ready to stop carrying shame and finally reclaim your body, your pleasure, and your truth, this is where it begins.
Break the Silence. Reclaim Your Body. Start Healing.
Explore the Healing from Purity Culture Blog
These posts are for women breaking free from purity culture, healing sexual shame, and learning to trust their bodies and desires again.
Start reading wherever you feel pulled. Your healing is yours to claim.
View All PostsCelebrate Your Healing Through Body-Positive Art
Art That Honors the Body After Healing from Purity Culture
My husband creates sensual, body-positive art that celebrates real skin, real curves, and the sacred beauty of a woman reclaiming her body after shame.
I became his muse as part of reclaiming my body. Every piece is a celebration of that healing.
These works invite you to trust your body, celebrate your pleasure, and reclaim your story after purity culture.
He is also open to custom pieces if you are ready to see your own story in art.
