Trauma Talks: Meet Mr. Sexy

Trauma affects us all a little bit differently. For instance, if a group of four are in a near death car accident, they will each come out with a different perspective, different triggers and a different level of trauma (The Body Keeps Score). The driver might have severe anxiety resulting in an inability to drive. The front passenger might be in therapy to work through triggers. As for the back seat passengers, one might not be affected at all, and the other may be slightly affected, yet not quite as acute as the other two passengers. I use this ...

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Power outages are normal for us. I wanted to blame anybody but me for the power outages, the cars that got repoed and the poor money management in general.

Power Outages Got Nothing On Us & Here’s Why

Power outages are normal for us. In fact, they have been happening our entire relationship – no sarcasm intended. So it was a nice surprise when a work man arrived at our front door to let me know they would be working on the power lines for most of the day. I prepped by filling water bottles, going to the bathroom and plugging in all of our electronic devices. We. Are. Set. Power outages, in the past, have wreaked havoc though. Years ago we were a young family in the sense we were a new family. Navigating life with ...

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Step-parenting is a hard job and not meant for the faint of heart. Add special needs to the mix and the work to love unonditionally is never over.

Step-Parenting: A Journey of Learning to Love

I have been step-parenting for almost 9 years to my daughter who is half black and has Down syndrome. So, if I’m being honest, becoming Ciena’s mom is one of the hardest things I have ever done – or at least, it’s in the top two. You see, my relationship with her has been strenuous, turbulent, indifferent and hard. There also have been moments of love, compassion and joy. Unfortunately, those moments are few and far between. The hard times of step-parenting seem to stick with me the most. I am beginning a journey called The Love Dare For ...

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Husband. Saying YES to those gut feeling ideas and you grow a sense of fullfillment that fuels your relationship with your husband, your firends and your spirit.

To Your Husband, Friends & Your Spirit: Practice Saying Yes

Friend, have you ever had an urge to do something for yourself or husband and instead of saying YES you thought, “Nah, I’ll do it later,” or, “Nobody else will really care about this.” And then you didn’t do the thing. I can personally give you so many examples of when I had these exact conversations. What I found is that “later” never arrived and the one woman who needed to hear my message never heard it… Your ideas and urges to do the things are important for your husband, your friends and your spirit. What sets you apart ...

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Relationship is my Jam. Any relationship can have its challenges. I will show you how I have maneuvered my way as a step-parent, co-parent, wife, friend and family member.

Relationship is My Jam: One Might Say it’s My Calling

Hi friend! Welcome to my tiny space of the internet! In this particular blog you may find a huge variety of conversations ranging from parenting to spirituality to business to relationship and so on. Here’s one thing you can for sure expect in every post: Unapologetic, authentic and real life stories from my life curated to help you, my reader. And let me tell you, I’m so happy you’re here! So, who is this lady, anyways? Well, I currently am living in a quaint, old farmhouse in Washing state with Mr. Sexy and our very well blended family. Mr. ...

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A Black Heart

This was the title of a blog post written about me and my family by an internet troll. It might have been called “An Ugly Heart.” Thankfully, my google searches no longer pop up with this post. This mania resulted in a major shift of my work. By mania, I mean harassments, threats and cops. And I let it break me. Years ago I was an avid blogger in effort to accomplish two things: First, to express my feelings and thoughts about being a new step-mom to my daughter who has Down syndrome. Secondly, to reach other moms who ...

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