Finding Intimacy in Marriage After Kids

Lila studied her reflection intently, as she willed her stomach to shrink just a tiny bit more while posing for an audience of one. She turned to the side, holding her breath just a bit so her stomach might appear less visible beneath the black satin of her slip. Even so, she admired her breasts, which were still perky even after two kids. Well, perky enough, she thought. Jake sure seemed to appreciate them. As she prepared for the evening, Lila thought about how this night could help rekindle the intimacy in marriage that had been slipping away amidst the busyness of life.

She let out a sigh, and her belly relaxed back to its normal shape. It’s not that she thought she was fat, but she secretly wished she could get her pre-baby body back. For a moment, she smiled, thinking back to her college days. Back then, it was late nights out, dancing at the club, large hands glued to her hips, and his lips kissing the back of her neck. She grabs his hand. He follows. Then, against the wall, him inside of her, her bare legs wrapped around him, screeching, moaning, calling for more.

Lost in the eroticism of her past, Lila reached down with her right hand. She pulled at the edges of her slip, drawing the fabric up her thigh, inch by inch. As she did so, she noticed the softness of her skin, tracing her inner thighs with her fingertips. However, when she reached her manicured mound, her hand dropped, and she was now back in the present.

Lila sighed and stepped away from the mirror, heading for the living room. Those days were long gone. If she had known then that wild hot sex would only be for wayward college kids, she might not have been so quick to say yes to the diamond ring on her finger. Then again, she wondered if she would have made a different choice. Isn’t this the life she dreamed of as a little girl?

“Wow,” Jake breathed as she walked in.

Lila smiled, feeling a little shy at the compliment. Soon after, his hands were around her face, his lips attached to hers, and she felt her entire body melt into his. He kissed her deeply, firmly, pulling her in tight as if she might slip away if he let go. Lila’s body relaxed. Her arms moved up and around his neck, pulling him in, enjoying his touch, and the sounds they made together in the stillness of their living room. At that moment, she was reminded of why intimacy in marriage was so vital, even after all these years.

Finally, Lila pulled away.

“Hi,” she giggled, smiling into his eyes. “You’re in a mood.”

“Or something.” Jake kissed her gently on the lips, his muscular arms wrapped around her waist.

“Are you hungry?” Lila eyed the takeout sitting on the coffee table.

“I’m starved,” Jake whispered in her ear, biting her earlobe as he pulled away. Lila gasped, feeling a little unsteady now standing alone in their cozy living room. So, she licked her lips and sat down on the couch. That’s when she realized the moisture collecting in her black lace thong. She wasn’t sure if it was her fantasies or his lips a few minutes ago that had her feeling sexually flustered. Therefore, Lila crossed her legs and sat back in the couch, enjoying the gentle pulsing of her clitoris. The intimacy in marriage was alive tonight, and she couldn’t help but feel hopeful for what was to come.

About an hour later, they finished eating, and Jake got busy in the kitchen putting away the leftovers. Lila lounged on the couch, a nearly empty wine glass in her hand. As she relaxed, she felt content, peaceful. Lila couldn’t remember the last time she and Jake had been able to talk for longer than ten minutes without an interruption from a baby who needed to nurse or a toddler who just wanted attention. Clearly, these quiet moments were exactly what they needed to rebuild the intimacy in marriage they both missed.

Lila closed her eyes, allowing these moments of bliss to sink in. Consequently, she didn’t notice Jake re-enter the room until she felt his lips on hers once more. In response, she showed her appreciation by wrapping her free arm around his neck and arching her chest up. This time, he pulled away and took her wine glass, setting it on the table.

“So, I got us a little something for tonight,” Jake said, lifting Lila’s legs so he could sit under them. That’s when she noticed the pink happy birthday gift bag with white tissue paper sitting on the coffee table.

Lila cocked her head, looking at Jake. “Whose birthday is it?” she laughed.

“Well, it’s the only bag I could find unless I wanted to wrap it in Christmas paper.” Jake rolled his eyes.

“Is it for me?” Lila raised an eyebrow.

“Yeah, for both of us too, I’m thinking…” Jake trailed off, seeming a little nervous. “Just open it.”

Lila swung her feet onto the floor and grabbed the bag. Excitedly, she pulled out the tissue paper and threw it wildly around the room like a little kid opening a birthday present in front of all her friends.

“What is all this?” Lila asked, staring wide-eyed into the bag.

“Look at it!” Jake laughed.

First, Lila pulled out a white bottle of liquid. “Just Like Me,” she read, “personal lubricant.” She glanced at Jake. “Hmm, okay.” She set the bottle down and then pulled out another bottle, this one much smaller. “What does Amp Enhancement Gel do?” she asked, glancing at Jake.

He shrugged. “It’s supposed to make the sex better or something. I don’t know, the reviews looked pretty good, so I thought it might be fun.” His voice went up at the end, almost as if asking a question instead of making a statement. Even so, Lila couldn’t help but smile, thinking about how these little surprises could add a new spark to their intimacy in marriage.

Lila nodded, already pulling out the last gift item.

“Okay, what in the world is this?” Lila exclaimed, pulling the lid off a blue box. Nestled into a bed of black foam sat an incredibly soft oval-shaped ball of silicone.

Jake reached for the vibrator. “Well, I did some research after we talked a few weeks ago. I found this website and decided to do a little shopping as a surprise.”

“Well, I’m definitely surprised!” Lila laughed.

“Wanna see how it works?” Jake almost dared her. And Lila didn’t like to back down from a dare.