I woke up this morning to fantastic, unexpected news. Or, in other words, God’s goodness continuing to show up in our lives. Our taxes and Covid stimulus check had arrived into our bank account. I don’t understand why now. And I don’t have to. Here’s our story these past 5 months. As I begin my tale, know that many details are still sacredly private. These few minutes you and I are about to spend together is the beginning of me learning to share all God has been doing. In July, trauma showed its face. Trauma has many different forms ...

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Holiday boundaries are not new to me. It took some years to not feel guilty about them. And even today I sometimes let the guilt in to sit a moment. Then I remember: It doesn’t have to be about them right now! Look around you! Your world feels like it’s continually spiraling and you’re growing extra limbs just to keep going! You don’t owe shit to anybody else, Jess. You are allowed to have boundaries! Boundaries have a way of setting you free. They allow you to truly live in the life you are designing for yourself. You can ...

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There is an epidemic of Christian women experiencing sexual shame and most people are not talking about it. How the hell do I know that? Well, sex shame is something I fight against every day. For example, going bra-less started as somewhat of an experiment a few years ago. Could I do it? Would I love it? How will I handle the discomforts? Jessica B with kids While I talk in depth about my “Bitch tits” journey on my podcast, I will tell you this: The number one reason I decided to ditch my bra was my own discomforts ...

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Twice this week a friend has bragged to me about their income. I understand the intent was not to show off. Instead the mission of my friends was to tell me there is opportunity to make great money doing what they are doing. As kind as the intent most likely is to tell me about extra pay days and the thousands being sold at parties, the outcome is the same for me. It feels belittling to have friends express their high volume of income when they know you are struggling financially. Mr. Sexy and I live a very different ...

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Sex Education is officially in my top 3 favorite tv shows which is something my conservative upbringing didn’t see coming. For the last handful of adult years, my favorite tv shows have been (#1) Grey’s Anatomy as the show I can watch on repeat and feel all of my emotions. Next up is The Walking Dead because we love the characters and deeper messages of the show. In last place was This Is Us because who doesn’t love a family show that reflects you in some way, making you sob like a baby during every episode? Sex Education is ...

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Your past trauma is your own story and nobody can take away your truth. This is mine: Disclaimer: When I was 16 something happened to me that shouldn’t have. To this day, I’m not sure what to call it. Sexual trauma? Rape? Or just a really bad experience? On one hand I want to call it rape. For some reason I resist this label, as if what happened wasn’t as big of a deal as I think it is. In other words, I feel I am not deserving to classify what happened to me as rape. Even as I ...

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