Trauma affects us all a little bit differently. For instance, if a group of four are in a near death car accident, they will each come out with a different perspective, different triggers and a different level of trauma (The Body Keeps Score). The driver might have severe anxiety resulting in an inability to drive. The front passenger might be in therapy to work through triggers. As for the back seat passengers, one might not be affected at all, and the other may be slightly affected, yet not quite as acute as the other two passengers. I use this ...

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Kindness: Kindness in the form of a simple gift can encourage better relationships with your spouse, your kids, your friends and even with yourself.

Kindness doesn’t always come easy. That is to say, it doesn’t come easy for me. On the other hand, sometimes you gotta just buckle down and do the kind thing even when you don’t feel like it.. That’s what yesterday’s Love Dare task was for me. My task was to do a kind thing and ask the kids to do a kind thing in return. So because Ciena is my main focus through this journey, I decided not to over think it. First, I grabbed purple cardstock and held it out to her.“Would you like to color on the ...

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Down syndrome: Being a step-parent to a child with down syndrome is difficult. There is always hope, and The Love Dare For Parents ia book towards that hope.

I began The Love Dare journey for my daughter who has Down Syndrome. It’s something I know I needed to start, and also something I really didn’t want to do. So I asked for prayer to help me out in this vulnerable area of my life. I spoke with all the sassy sarcasm I could muster in effort to hide my discomfort. Therefore my friend responded with, “Girl, you better check your attitude!” While that stung to hear, I understand it’s true. Probably. Maybe. The thing is…. being a parent to a child with Down syndrome is really hard. ...

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Step-parenting is a hard job and not meant for the faint of heart. Add special needs to the mix and the work to love unonditionally is never over.

I have been step-parenting for almost 9 years to my daughter who is half black and has Down syndrome. So, if I’m being honest, becoming Ciena’s mom is one of the hardest things I have ever done – or at least, it’s in the top two. You see, my relationship with her has been strenuous, turbulent, indifferent and hard. There also have been moments of love, compassion and joy. Unfortunately, those moments are few and far between. The hard times of step-parenting seem to stick with me the most. I am beginning a journey called The Love Dare For ...

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Relationship is my Jam. Any relationship can have its challenges. I will show you how I have maneuvered my way as a step-parent, co-parent, wife, friend and family member.

Hi friend! Welcome to my tiny space of the internet! In this particular blog you may find a huge variety of conversations ranging from parenting to spirituality to business to relationship and so on. Here’s one thing you can for sure expect in every post: Unapologetic, authentic and real life stories from my life curated to help you, my reader. And let me tell you, I’m so happy you’re here! So, who is this lady, anyways? Well, I currently am living in a quaint, old farmhouse in Washing state with Mr. Sexy and our very well blended family. Mr. ...

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