Heartbreak is inevitable. My first was around the 8th grade or so. He was never even my boyfriend. Yet I cried about him like he had been the love of my young life. I don’t want to forget this painful experience because it’s memories like these that keep me open minded to my own daughter’s journey through life. His name was *Chad, which may or may not have been short for *Chadwick. He was a quiet boy, a good boy, a Christian boy. He was cute, not incredibly tall but taller than me. Tick, tick, tick, he checked off ...

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A gift can be given and taken away. Is that how it goes? Well, that’s basically how this story goes. Two years ago or so my dad texted me out of the blue, asking to meet up soon. Because we had not had any kind of relationship for 5 about years before that, he clarified that “Everything is okay” and he wasn’t dying. I appreciated him saying that. One of deepest fears is his death before reconciliation. During our awkward meeting- because none of us really knew each other anymore – my dad did the one thing I had ...

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Mr. Sexy

“So is the weight loss healthy or unhealthy?” a friend asked Mr. Sexy as he entered the room. “Well, I’m also swimming 4-5 days a week,” Mr. Sexy said with a chuckle. “Oh, so you’re getting a swimmer’s body then,” the friend replied. My question is this: Why do we feel the need to comment on someone’s outward appearance like their weight loss? What is the actual intent behind these types of comments? For the most part I am sure it is innocent or just uneducated on best ways to start conversations. It’s all forgivable and not the end ...

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The day it all began

I woke up this morning to fantastic, unexpected news. Or, in other words, God’s goodness continuing to show up in our lives. Our taxes and Covid stimulus check had arrived into our bank account. I don’t understand why now. And I don’t have to. Here’s our story these past 5 months. As I begin my tale, know that many details are still sacredly private. These few minutes you and I are about to spend together is the beginning of me learning to share all God has been doing. In July, trauma showed its face. Trauma has many different forms ...

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Church was a safe space for me until it wasn’t anymore. It took one church leader telling me ”You’re unteachable,” for Mr. Sexy and I to decide to walk away from church. We were done with no plans to go back. On one hand, I wish we had been strong enough to realize there are healthy churches and healthy people inside those churches. Even the broken ones. But we decided to call it quits. To be clear, we walked away from church, not from our faith. Because we had only recently moved back to the area, we hadn’t yet ...

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I have been a story teller my entire life. It started when my mom taught me the art of journaling around 7 years old or so. She taught me to put pen to paper and practice articulating my thoughts and emotions. Fast forward to today, and I am obsessed with real stories about real people. In the same way, I have a continuous drive to share my own stories. There is so much value to be found in this kind of connection. A little over 15 years ago something happened to me that shouldn’t have. This is a story ...

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