Dear Mr. Friendly,

I am blessed beyond words to tell you that my husband completely ignored your advice from a few years back. You remember us, right? Your church is too small not to notice when we arrived… And when we left. Your “counsel” is the reason we ultimately left your church. This allowed our marriage space to heal and then seek out a new church family that practices grace and forgiveness. It’s absolutely disgusting that your first reaction to our marriage story was divorce. Even worse, you attempted to convince my husband to leave me. Convince. That word alone is problematic ...

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The day it all began

God’s Goodness Through The Storms

I woke up this morning to fantastic, unexpected news. Or, in other words, God’s goodness continuing to show up in our lives. Our taxes and Covid stimulus check had arrived into our bank account. I don’t understand why now. And I don’t have to. Here’s our story these past 5 months. As I begin my tale, know that many details are still sacredly private. These few minutes you and I are about to spend together is the beginning of me learning to share all God has been doing. In July, trauma showed its face. Trauma has many different forms ...

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Church Is Hard in the Best Way

Church was a safe space for me until it wasn’t anymore. It took one church leader telling me ”You’re unteachable,” for Mr. Sexy and I to decide to walk away from church. We were done with no plans to go back. On one hand, I wish we had been strong enough to realize there are healthy churches and healthy people inside those churches. Even the broken ones. But we decided to call it quits. To be clear, we walked away from church, not from our faith. Because we had only recently moved back to the area, we hadn’t yet ...

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Sex is a dirty word. It's scary to talk about. Can you resonate with any of these statements? Sex is power used for good or bad.

Sex: Power that is Used for Good or Bad

Sex is a dirty word. It’s scary to talk about. In fact, your friends judge you when you bring it up. Church, for the most part, doesn’t want to talk bout sex. Unless, of course, it’s talked about in the “right way.” Sex is a taboo subject and one that should be skirted at every opportunity. Can you resonate with any of these statements? Have you grown up with any of these ideologies? While some of the above statements are on the extreme side, I personally have to fight through these negative connotations to support a healthy lifestyle for ...

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A Black Heart

This was the title of a blog post written about me and my family by an internet troll. It might have been called “An Ugly Heart.” Thankfully, my google searches no longer pop up with this post. This mania resulted in a major shift of my work. By mania, I mean harassments, threats and cops. And I let it break me. Years ago I was an avid blogger in effort to accomplish two things: First, to express my feelings and thoughts about being a new step-mom to my daughter who has Down syndrome. Secondly, to reach other moms who ...

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