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Three E’s You Need For Stronger Orgasms

Whether looking for stronger orgasms or just a new technique to add to your sex menu, you’re in the right spot! There is nothing worse than an orgasm that just … won’t … come … the way you want them to. (Remember: All puns intended!) One past client described her inability to orgasm like a large pot of boiling water and just before the pressure blows the lid off, everything calms back down to a low simmer. Gah! So frustrating! Lucky for you, I am sharing the three E’s to stronger orgasms. Use these ideas together or individually, with ...

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First Heartbreak

Heartbreak is inevitable. My first was around the 8th grade or so. He was never even my boyfriend. Yet I cried about him like he had been the love of my young life. I don’t want to forget this painful experience because it’s memories like these that keep me open minded to my own daughter’s journey through life. His name was *Chad, which may or may not have been short for *Chadwick. He was a quiet boy, a good boy, a Christian boy. He was cute, not incredibly tall but taller than me. Tick, tick, tick, he checked off ...

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The Most Beautiful Gift That Never Was

A gift can be given and taken away. Is that how it goes? Well, that’s basically how this story goes. Two years ago or so my dad texted me out of the blue, asking to meet up soon. Because we had not had any kind of relationship for 5 about years before that, he clarified that “Everything is okay” and he wasn’t dying. I appreciated him saying that. One of deepest fears is his death before reconciliation. During our awkward meeting- because none of us really knew each other anymore – my dad did the one thing I had ...

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Mr. Sexy

Why the Weight Loss Question?

“So is the weight loss healthy or unhealthy?” a friend asked Mr. Sexy as he entered the room. “Well, I’m also swimming 4-5 days a week,” Mr. Sexy said with a chuckle. “Oh, so you’re getting a swimmer’s body then,” the friend replied. My question is this: Why do we feel the need to comment on someone’s outward appearance like their weight loss? What is the actual intent behind these types of comments? For the most part I am sure it is innocent or just uneducated on best ways to start conversations. It’s all forgivable and not the end ...

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Holiday Boundaries

Holiday boundaries are not new to me. It took some years to not feel guilty about them. And even today I sometimes let the guilt in to sit a moment. Then I remember: It doesn’t have to be about them right now! Look around you! Your world feels like it’s continually spiraling and you’re growing extra limbs just to keep going! You don’t owe shit to anybody else, Jess. You are allowed to have boundaries! Boundaries have a way of setting you free. They allow you to truly live in the life you are designing for yourself. You can ...

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Trauma: Was this my fault

Your past trauma is your own story and nobody can take away your truth. This is mine: Disclaimer: When I was 16 something happened to me that shouldn’t have. To this day, I’m not sure what to call it. Sexual trauma? Rape? Or just a really bad experience? On one hand I want to call it rape. For some reason I resist this label, as if what happened wasn’t as big of a deal as I think it is. In other words, I feel I am not deserving to classify what happened to me as rape. Even as I ...

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